Thursday, May 25, 2006

Thursday Thirteen #2

Thirteen Things You Will Never Hear Me Mention on This Blog.

1. Religion. Not everyone is the same religion or believes the same things. I am not going to bore you with going on and on about my convictions. I am not going to try to charge your beliefs or tell you that you are wrong, as long as you don't do that to me. Religion isn't why we are friends anyway.

2. Politics. See above.

3. Racism and Generalisms. It makes me mad. The only thing I could complain about my in-laws is that they think mild racism is funny. I don't want that to leak into my family.
You will never hear me say that black guy or that gay guy. If I am pissed off at you and don't know your name, I am going to call you that idiot that pissed me off.

4. My home address. Duh!

5. Complaints about other mommy bloggers. If I don't agree with certain posts or blogs, I am just not going to read or comment on them. I am not going to bash them.

6. Fights with my husband. If we are truely fighting or disagreeing then that is between me and him. If I am going to rant to someone I might as well rant to the person I am mad at. Gabriel and I have a good marriage so this is not a problem.

7. Sexuality. And I am not talking about my sex life. I mean things like how to spice up your sex, or postions, or mastrabation, or anything like that. I am not comfortable talking about it. Which I totally blame on my parents for teaching me that sex is a bad word and everytime I had questions telling me that I was not ready.

8. Ok, my real sex life. Again, between me and my husband. None of your bees wax.

9. Anything bad about working mommies. I always feel like there is tention between working moms and SAHMs. Which the more I think about it, the more I feel that it is more made up than real. Being a working mommy isn't easy wheither it was your choice or not. Being a SAHM isn't easy either, even though alot of people view it as lazy. We all make choices. Choices that are good for our kids and good for us.

10. Spanking. Yes, I believe in spanking, but I am not going to talk about it because I don't want to be labeled a spanking mommy. Like there is a clear line in disapline and I have somehow jumped across it. Spanking can work IF there are rules to follow.
1) NEVER, EVER spank or slap a hand in anger or heat of the moment. If you can't disapline calmly, you are better off not at all.
2) I always give a reminder or explaination not to touch, most cases two. A repeat offence in succession will get a hand slap. Some things that he KNOWS not to touch, like the TV remote, get a reminder and if ignored a hand slap.
3) Hand slaps are just hard enough to get his attention, not to cause pain into tears or marks or anything like that.
4) The rules of what he gets disaplined for can't change.
5) I also use a spray bottle with water, but he is more likely to ignore this.
6) Never slap a face.
7) Some things are their own punishment, like the kool-aid incendent.
8) With fits and also other things when his is older, I use time outs in the playpen. The kid needs to work it out and calm down. I like the Supernanny rules for this.
9) My goal in spanking is to never do it. I have not spanked Mark once and if I do my job right I will never have to.
10) This seems to be a very effective way so far. I don't slap his hand often. And he has learned respect and obedience at first commands, "Don't touch" or "Come back" or "Pet the doggie nicely", even at his age.
11) I almost forgot the most important. Praise, praise, praise, praise, praise!
Also, I talk openly about this to Mark's Pediatrition and he agrees with me.
I don't care if how you disapline. My way isn't the only way. Again your life, your choice.

11. My last name. I used to not care. Now I try hard to not let it leak.

12. I won the lottery, because we stopped buying tickets.

13. Alot of swearing. I use a word here and a word there. Usually not even once a post. I don't feel the need to say f*ck or b*tch or h*ll every other word. I write like I talk. Scary, huh? I really talk like this. It scares my husband. He is always saying, if you could hear yourself talk. But then again, it sounded good in my head...

There. It actually felt kinda good to get that out. But get your fill now. Because it is not likely that I will bring it up again.

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Great Day said...

#5 - I couldn't agree with this one more. No need to bash, just keep your mouth shut if you don't agree. "if you can't say something nice, don't say nothin at all!"

Momma Bee said...

Wow, what a post!! :) Great idea, Steph, and you got it all out at once.

I think you're so right about #9...why should there be tension? We all love our kids and do the best we can, and we all work damned hard. End of story!

Bar Bar A said...

Great list, very well done :)
I like your style and the way you think!

Julie said...

Great list, I pretty much agree with most of them and wouldn't claim to know better!

Susan said...

Great's good know who you are and what you believe.

My TT is up here.


I do believe in spanking too. Not that I do it all the time but only when things really get out of control.
Thanks for dropping by.

Wenchy said...

mmmmmmmmm I like your list. Always be true to you. I say FUCK allot. I have no problem discussing masturbation or anything else sexual. I won't discuss my husband on my blog and I think each to their own and won't ever disrespect working moms etc

chelle said...

Hhehe Great idea for a 13 list!

Carrie said...

All seem like very legitimate "Do Not Discuss" topics.

Hope you have a great weekend!


Cityslicker Mom said...

wow, sounds alot like something I'd write!! :)